ekikaseven

The way the courts look at it (and the way it is) is this: she does SUPPORT the child by providing a roof over its head, the daycare/supervision when child is not in school, etc., etc.,  It does not matter whether she works or not she is still providing it, even if its through her present husband.

While I realize this is not fair to you, its just the way it is.

I wish you the best.

Thank you for the reply. I know that its not the step dads job to pay for the step child but I think that my husbands ex-wife should have to get a job before his child support is raised. She also needs to help support the child.

I took the information directly from their site. Please read teh fine print whenever you invest in a company.

If this is true im really sorry i will investigate this and im sorry if thats true that is garbage

God Bless you

 Thank you

So someone should find a job through this company and then pay the company up to 7 days pay? are you freaking kidding me? Get this garbage off of here.

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to "tattoopaul" 

I am going to have to agree with "wowJustwow'.  I am a female also.  I would love for someone to pay MY mortgage off.  I would  NOT ask or Expect that. 

It has nothing to do with not having the love of Yeshua (Jesus), but more of having common sense.  Most women that have kids have to work.  I would not work long hours, those 16 hours shifts that I have had to do, just so someone else could sit at home!  What about me & my kids?

If you want to it's your choice.

In both the Word of God (Torah), Old Testament & New Testament, some women DID work.  Most worked in the home.  They sewed clothes, etc and SOLD them for monies.  In the Old testament, Deborah was a Judge.   What's more, it's the husband's job to be the provider of the home (not the people on this site to pay for this home).  It is correct to give a helping hand, nothing is wrong with that.  However, there are so many in need, one can give to whomever they choose.  It is up to their hearts to choose.  It is the responsibility of that woman & that man to provide for THEIR children.  And, if they have to work (like the rest of us) to do so, then they need to do what they have to do. 

Have a good day

WARNING,WARNING,WARNING: Everyone to the young, the middle-aged, the old alike. DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT cosign, get credit cards for, a loan for, or extend your credit to ANYONE for ANY reason. Take it from someone who knows first hand. This is not to 'hurt' you, but to help you. I know what you are saying. This is my closest relative. Yeah, that's what I said! LAST FAMOUS WORDS. Now, don't get me wrong, there are alot of 'good' people out there. But send them to the 'BANK'. That is what banks are for. If they will promise to pay you back, then they can promise to pay the bank back. It will save you alot of stress. I know, alot of people do keep their word. But, unfortunately alot of them don't! And, it's ashame it's our relatives and friends that are the first not to keep their word. And yes, I know everyone has hard times. But your credit report (and mine) don't understand or care about OTHER people's hard times. Our credit get destroyed just as easily if it's someone's else's fault. Then in the end, who suffers. WE DO. From someone who's been there, done that.

IN RESPONSE TO:  "qsakay"

(1) It is because of HARD TIMES is why we kids had to pay for our OWN wedding.  Where have YOU been if you think its only in the last 10 years that kids pay for their WEDDING?  We all HAD too, parents weren't able to do so.  And, we DID pay for it (we had what we could afford).  Our parents did not ask others to pay for OUR dream.  Afterall, the court house is quite reasonable! And, my kids shall pay for their own wedding.  I will NOT be asking others to pay for my children's LUXURIES.  Since, this is NOT a need.  Like I said the court house is reasonable.  Now, I did not say there is anything wrong with asking for help, far from it.  But less face it, everyone will not get help here.  I merely made suggestions to lessen the stress for you.

(2) I am well aware of what the government pays disabled veterans, since I am one.  I am well aware of the military pay status.  What is your point?

(3) As for as the disposible diaper issue: like I said everyone who comes here will not get help.  I just made some money-saving or frugal suggestions. So, therefore, again what is your point?

(4) You are absolutely right!  Our country does pour out alot of monies to other countries & forsakes its own.  However, I'm not a politician.  That issue needs to be taken up with our elected officials.

(5) You stated:                                                                  "I THINK MOST OF GOD BIDING AMERICAN PEOPLE ARE IN NEED OF HELP! RUSHING TO JUDGEMENT IS NOT THE WAY TO GO."      I totally agree with you!                                                  And, that is exactly MY point!  Most of us Americans are in need of help.  It is because of so many of us in need that alot of us are bound NOT to get help.  So what is wrong with suggestions some frugal ideas.  Or in my case asking a person have they thought of this or that.     It is clear that the ONLY one who is 'rushing to judgement' is YOU.

(1) It is because of HARD TIMES is why we kids had to pay for our OWN wedding.  Where have YOU been if you think its only in the last 10 years that kids pay for their WEDDING?  We all HAD too, parents weren't able to do so.  And, we DID pay for it (we had what we could afford).  Our parents did not ask others to pay for OUR dream.  Afterall, the court house is quite reasonable! And, my kids shall pay for their own wedding.  I will NOT be asking others to pay for my children's LUXURIES.  Since, this is NOT a need.  Like I said the court house is reasonable.  Now, I did not say there is anything wrong with asking for help, far from it.  But less face it, everyone will not get help here.  I merely made suggestions to lessen the stress for you.

(2) I am well aware of what the government pays disabled veterans, since I am one.  I am well aware of the military pay status.  What is your point?

(3) As for as the disposible diaper issue: like I said everyone who comes here will not get help.  I just made some money-saving or frugal suggestions. So, therefore, again what is your point?

(4) You are absolutely right!  Our country does pour out alot of monies to other countries & forsakes its own.  However, I'm not a politician.  That issue needs to be taken up with our elected officials.

(5) You stated:                                                                  "I THINK MOST OF GOD BIDING AMERICAN PEOPLE ARE IN NEED OF HELP! RUSHING TO JUDGEMENT IS NOT THE WAY TO GO."      I totally agree with you!                                                  And, that is exactly MY point!  Most of us Americans are in need of help.  It is because of so many of us in need that alot of us are bound NOT to get help.  So what is wrong with suggestions some frugal ideas.  Or in my case asking a person have they thought of this or that.     It is clear that the ONLY one who is 'rushing to judgement' is YOU.

ITS APPERENT THAT YOU HAVE NOT BEEN THROUGH HARD TIMES. ONLLY IN THE LAST TEN YEARS OR SO THE KIDS ARE PAYING FOR THERE WEDDING. IN THE DAY, MOM AND DAD HELP TO PAY FOR THE WEDDING.AND THAT IS NOT A BAD THING. SOME TIMES THAT A GOOD THING. NOW, IF YOU WANT YOUR CHILDREN TO PAY THERE OWN WAY, THATS YOUR DESISION. AS FOR MILITARY PAY IF YOU CHECK AROUND..IN SOME STATES THEY DO NOT PAY TAXES ON RETIREMENT PAY AND IN SOME STATES YOU DO PAY TAXES ON MILITARY PAY. IF YOU ARE A DISABLE WAR VETERAN YES, YOU DON'T PAY TAXES ON YOUR DISABILITY. AND IF YOU CHECK PAY TABLE, THE GOVERNMENT HARDLY PAYS THE DISABLE VETERAN HARDLY ANYTHING. AS FOR DISPOSIBLE BABY DIEPERS, THERE IS NOT WRONG WITH HELPING OTHER AMERICANS. WE ARE ALWAYS WILLING TO DUMP MONIES AND GIVING FOOD AND CLOTHING AND YES DISPOSIBLE DIEPERS TO OTHER COUNTRIES. SO WHY CAN'T WE HELP AMERICAN PEOPLE THAT NEED HELP AND BELIVE ME JUST LOOK AROUND YOUR OWN TOWN, I BET YOU FIND HOUNDREDS OF PEOPLE THAT NEED HELP. I THINK MOST OF GOD BIDING AMERICAN PEOPLE ARE IN NEED OF HELP! RUSHING TO JUDGEMENT IS NOT THE WAY TO GO.

Thanks for your comment Rayhawk,

It seems that when I suggested the idea someone got upset.  I don't know why.  They requested monies for disposable diapers & wipes. I suggest cloth diapers to everyone that ask for diapers.  They are cheaper in the long run and 'eco' friendly.

My mom & dad used cloth diapers on us (me & my sisters & brothers) for years.  They used disposable ones too when they could afford them.  If they could not afford them they did not even ask others let alone complain if they didn't get them.

 My Dad always said that if one can no longer afford their 'luxuries, habits, etc' then one may have to stop them. 

People have been living for thousands of years without disposable diapers.  Matter-of-fact, people live without 'cloth diapers' as we know them.  Instead they use rags or materials that they have or can find.  Just like you said you did.  I am so very proud of you for being creative in your situation & sharing this with others.  If the economy continues to decline, we will need to come up with many 'inconvenient ways' to survive.

I certainly didn't mean to hurt anyone's feelings by suggestion cloth diapers.  However, I stand by what I said.

Thank you for sharing with us 'what can be done' on lower income.

God bless you

Thank you for the Prayer! It means a whole lot to me! Tara

IN RESPONSE TO: 'K'

hi 'k',

Everyone who comes to this site DON'T get help.  It is unfortunate, but it is a FACT.  Since most people here are in NEED themselves, where would you suggest the money come from?

It is sad that your friend is down on her luck, as with MANY Americans during these difficult times.

I'm sure your friend DOES love her daughter & grandchild.  You stated that she does not get any credit for that. 

We ALL love our own families.  I do indeed sympathize with your friend's situation.  However, what kind of 'credit' would you like for us to give a person for loving their OWN family?  Let me know, so we ALL can get the same credit!

I am so glad that you were able to take up a collection for YOUR friend.  That is what friends are for, to help each other.  I'm proud of you for helping your friend!

The SITE itself does not give. An INDIVIDUAL might give if they are able too do so or inclined to do so.  I think you might have THIS site confused with some of the other sites that do issue out loans, gifts as a whole.  On those sites, I think people VOTE on who they want monies to go too.  They collect monies collectively & donate to others.  This site does not work that way.

You might want to do a post here & ask just 'how many people' here have received financial help.  There are so many that need help here.  This is why alot of us take time out to share ideas, links, etc.  We do this because we know everyone of us will not receive help here.  So why not link others to other resources. 

Have a good night

Thank you so much for your kind words.

May God bless you richly,

ekikaseven

Hi, Ekikaseven. I was reading your posts, and I like what you say, and I wanted to thank you for reminding me to trust God! I, too, have experienced prayer, visualization, and affirmations working! Your words are wise, and I appreciate them. Love and blessings to you and everyone on this site!

WARNING,WARNING,WARNING: Everyone to the young, the middle-aged, the old alike. DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT cosign, get credit cards for, a loan for, or extend your credit to ANYONE for ANY reason. Take it from someone who knows first hand. This is not to 'hurt' you, but to help you. I know what you are saying. This is my closest relative. Yeah, that's what I said! LAST FAMOUS WORDS. Now, don't get me wrong, there are alot of 'good' people out there. But send them to the 'BANK'. That is what banks are for. If they will promise to pay you back, then they can promise to pay the bank back. It will save you alot of stress. I know, alot of people do keep their word. But, unfortunately alot of them don't! And, it's ashame it's our relatives and friends that are the first not to keep their word. And yes, I know everyone has hard times. But your credit report (and mine) don't understand or care about OTHER people's hard times. Our credit get destroyed just as easily if it's someone's else's fault. Then in the end, who suffers. WE DO. From someone who's been there, done that.

I agree with you commet on collage and the cost of it all I have tried to return to school and am inrolled in one now but yes it will take me ten years if not longer to pay every thing bake and at 34 almost 35 it will be hard I know that there has to be something the goverment could do. However getting them to would be harder than doing oral sergery on a crocadile without puttin it to sleep first

Hi everyone: REMEMBER SOMETIMES WE NEED TO "PAY IT BACKWARDS' I see so many here saying, 'if you will help me, I'll pay it forward'. In my lifetime, I have seen time and time again where people would help others-only to be forgotten during their time of need. I know people who have given their 'all' to help another person or persons. That 'giver' may have been doing okay at the time. But later on, 'life happens' and the tide changed. And, the person who gave became the person in need. However, the people who this person 'blessed' forgot all about that person who helped them. Maybe, they are 'paying it forward' to someone else; or maybe they are selfish and have forgotten the good that was done unto them. Meanwhile, the person who has blessed others now suffers and has no one to help. My point is this: in one's zest to 'seek help' in their time of need, please don't forget the one(s) who have helped you. The next time around that person may need you. So, please remember there may be a need to "pay it backwards". Have a blessed night.

WARNING,WARNING,WARNING: Everyone To the young, the middle-aged, the old alike. DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT cosign, get credit cards for, a loan for, or extend your credit to ANYONE for ANY reason. Take it from someone who knows first hand. This is not to 'hurt' you, but to help you. I know what you are saying. This is my closest relative. Yeah, that's what I said! LAST FAMOUS WORDS. Now, don't get me wrong, there are alot of 'good' people out there. But send them to the 'bank'. That is what banks are for. If they will promise to pay you back, then they can promise to pay the bank back. It will save you alot of stress. I know, alot of people do keep their word. But, unfortunately alot of them don't! And, it's ashame it's our relatives and friends that are the first not to keep their word. And yes, I know everyone has hard times. But your credit report (and mine) don't understand or care about OTHER people's hard times. Our credit get destroyed just as easily if it's someone's else's fault. Then in the end, who suffers. WE DO. From someone who's been there, done that.

You are more than welcome for the prayers.

May God bless you,

ekikaseven

Ekikaseven, Thanks for the prayers and I believe God will show you your direction in his hand.

Thank you for your kind words.

Thank you for your prayers. Anything is possible. I love your "Angels" quote. Take care and keep praying.

thank you for careing...i need help i have no where to go but up,thanks diver.is there anyone that can help me???

Hey Roseb,

I have seen some of the posts that people have written to you.  Some nice and some 'whiny'.

My Dad always taught me this "if you want something done, and want it done right, do it yourself."  

I teach others "if you want something DONE, do it yourself".

I know what it is to have NEED.  However, few things in life are FREE.

So, unless we know someone (a friend, relative) that will show us then we have the following OPTIONS:  (1) FIND the information ourselves, or (2) TAKE a class on grantwriting.  They teach these at most community colleges and online, or (3) Contact our local Chamber of Commerce & Small Business Administration, or (4) Go to the library, interet or purchase a grantwriting book, or  (5) PAY someone else to get the info for us.

I know all of the EXCUSES, they run from not having money to needing what little do have for food, etc.  We can give every excuse in the world, no matter how true they are it still WILL NOT change our OPTIONS. 

Complaining about other people not doing stuff for us, or them charging a fee for doing stuff will not help our situation in the least!

And, another thing.  On this site, all information offered here is done a voluntary basis.  No one is REQUIRED to give anyone anything. 

I am just so grateful to the people who are able to provide some insight and direction sometime.

God bless you,

ekikaseven

Hi thank you for reponding to me. I don't know how this works and I don't know how to get your response. It just shows that you have visited me. Can you tell me how to look at the comments when people visit people.Again thank you and God Bless you!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY JESUS CHRIST

&

MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE

BE BLESSED,

ekikaseven

Hi there desperate 13,

Contact the church that you attend for assistance with food, etc.

You can also contact your local food banks.

Also, call dept of social services/dept of human resources.  Ask to speak to a case manager/social worker.  They have a list of local resources in your community.

Contact the health department and mental health center.  Arrange for a referral to get treatment for your depression.

Have you already contacted the American Cancer Society?  If not contact them as well.

best wishes,

ekikaseven

please contact me. Do you know if anyone can help me. Sometimes God puts other people in others to help us.

This one is for you Ekikaseven. Thank You! http://www.gratitudecampaign.org/fullmovie.php Sincerely, Elaine

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR DROPPING BY MY PAGE AND PRAYING FOR US, YOU TRULY ARE AN ANGEL.... I REALLY NEED THIS TONIGHT...

LOVE YOU

ROBIN

Thank YOU for ALL YOU DO.

I thought that this was an answer for me and my kids, its not. I will be homeless agin and someone said that they would help me but never responded when I reply to the e-mail. That was mean. Agin can someone HELP ME? I struggle everyday to provide meat for my family> I am jobless so its getting harder and harder. HELP Stephanie Evans

Dear ekikaseven: Would this apply to you or anyone you know?
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Hi Virginia, You are more than welcomed. God bless you, ekikaseven

thank you for dropping by to encourage me. I know God is going to work things out. Sometimes I wish I had a 501 c 3 to do better, but it takes money and a car to get around, so I will be patient this is the second annual everything so I trust God next year will be even greater! I'd like to eventually have a ware house full of things for children that lost their mother or providing parent to violence, and I am believing God for that for the babies. thank u soooo much

Hi 'H', Thank you for sharing that beautiful, heart warming prayer with us. It is very much appreciated. I know alot of people here will not understand, but God is the answer! Some people just want money for the moment (due to the stress of the situation). However, we must realize God is the everlasting PROVIDER. I am TRULY a witness to what God can do. I am one of those that God took from the arms of dispair and set me upon SOLID ground. I am she, that God took from having to worry constantly (from being broke) to not having to worry. I praise You, Lord for Your goodness and mercy unto to me. Not just me, but all those that trust in You. I praise You for sending the teachers to 'teach' us Your word and how to use Your word to meet our needs. Blesseth are the feet that publisheth the gospel. Trouble will not last always. There is a time and a season for everything. Lord, give us all 'teachable' hearts. Open the eyes of our understanding. Convict the hearts of those scammers who try to take advantage of those in distress. Lord, let no one that call upon the of Jesus Christ be dissapointed. In Jesus name, I pray. Thank You Lord for Your mercies endureth forever. Amen.

THE PRICE OF SCHOOL/SECONDARY EDUCATION IS IT JUST ME WHO FEEL THIS WAY, BUT I THINK THAT THE PRICE FOR COLLEGE AND SECONDARY EDUCATION HAS BECOME OUTRAGEOUS!! BY THE TIME ONE GET THERE COLLEGE DEGREE, ONE IS IN SO MUCH DEBT FROM STUDENT LOANS, THAT WHEN THEY DO GET A JOB IT WILL BARELY PAY BACK THE LOANS. I THINK OUR POLITICIANS SHOULD BE CONTACTED SO MAYBE WE CAN GET THIS SITUATION REFORMED. THEN AGAIN, MAYBE IT IS JUST ME WHO FEEL THIS WAY. WHAT DO YOU GUYS/GALS THINK ABOUT THIS MATTER?

CHRISTMAS IS COMING SOON, CHRISTMAS IS COMING SOON!!!!!!! Alot of people will be stresing out during this time. Some will want to buy their loved ones Christmas gifts. And, then there a CHILDREN. And we all know what stress a child can put on a parent to get gifts. Everyone may not be able to buy the gifts they would like too for Christmas. Some get depressed because of not being able to afford to get what others are getting. The holidays can be very stressful. It is a known fact that alot of people commit suicide during this time of year. There are different reasons of course. Some of the reasons are: 'loneliness', 'dispair over the loss of a loved one (whether through death or seperation)', 'feeling left out of things', 'sickness', 'heartache', and 'financial problems'. Now these are just some, I'm sure the list goes on. I don't know how to make the holiday times less stressful for others but these are just a few of the things that have helped me. (1) Remembering, its Christ's BIRTHDAY we're celebrating. I can give others a birthday gift on their birthday! But since its Christ birthday and not others birthday (unless your birthday is on same date), then I should give Christ a birthday present. So, except for a few select people, I will not stress myself out by trying to get everyone a present. (2) My Grandmother always taught me that when someone 'makes you a present' it is from the HEART, therefore being more special then a 'store bought one'. Therefore, I try to make some gifts for my loved ones. Whether it be a craft item of flowers, baking cookies, making special vinegar, etc--it is from MY HEART. (3) Get family involved in a giving tradition. Instead of gifts for ourselves, I created small bags of items to take the Veterans in the VA hospital/VA nursing homes. I created over 50 of these. On Christmas day we take these gifts to the veterans. Not only that, but spend the whole day visiting and talking with them all. It really brightens up the vet's day. Some of the older vets don't have anyone to visit them. (4) Alot of people 'pull a name' to buy a gift for. I have found this to be a great idea. (5) The Dollar Stores have nice toys and gifts. I know you may be thinking 'how cheap'. However, if that is all the 'budget' will allow then that is what need to be bought. (6) I will not ever (again) 'charge' a Christmas present on a credit card, unless I am going to pay it immediately. It's DEPRESSING to still be paying for Christmas gifts 6 months or a year after Christmas has passed. (7) Write a poem or a short story for a loved one. Put it in a frame (you can get frames for a dollar at the dollar store). Wrap it up and give it to the loved one. This will touch their heart and mean so much to the other person. They can hang it on their wall, mantle, etc and have it for years to come. (8) For those people in your life who have always told you its the 'THOUGHT THAT COUNTS', why not give them the thought! Now, this would be good for people you like and especially those you don't like. Don't tell your 'mother-in-law' I said that. Go to a magazine, paper, internet. Cut out a picture of a Rolls Royce, Bently, a beautiful mansion, or whatever you'd like. Attach it to a beautiful, handwritten note from you. The note should state something to the effect of "This is what I would have given you for Christmas if I could've afford it. However, since I cannot afford it, I am sending you a "picture along with the thought". Afterall, its the thought that counts". And wish them Merry Christmas or whatever salutations you wish. (9) Do a Christmas dinner rather than gifts. Of course, have others to bring a plate of food, goodies, etc. Why should you do all the work, right? (10) Encourage children to bake cookies for other children in need. Take these to the homeless shelters that have kids in your area. Please supervise kids when cooking, but then you already know that! (11) A child could also paint their relatives a picture (or use crayons, etc). Their artwork can be put in a frame and given to parents, aunts, uncles, this is great for grandma and grandpa. I cannot tell you how much I treasure the artwork my kids gave to me when they were young. When they get older you are lucky to get artwork from them. Usually, we do not get ANY. So these treasures are very special and would make a great Christmas presents. Oh well, I am getting tired right now. If I think of anything else I will let you know. Please feel free to share any ideas or suggestions to make the holiday season less stressful and CHEAPER. Take care, ekikaseven

CHRISTMAS IS COMING SOON, CHRISTMAS IS COMING SOON!!!!!!! Alot of people will be stresing out during this time. Some will want to buy their loved ones Christmas gifts. And, then there a CHILDREN. And we all know what stress a child can put on a parent to get gifts. Everyone may not be able to buy the gifts they would like too for Christmas. Some get depressed because of not being able to afford to get what others are getting. The holidays can be very stressful. It is a known fact that alot of people commit suicide during this time of year. There are different reasons of course. Some of the reasons are: 'loneliness', 'dispair over the loss of a loved one (whether through death or seperation)', 'feeling left out of things', 'sickness', 'heartache', and 'financial problems'. Now these are just some, I'm sure the list goes on. I don't know how to make the holiday times less stressful for others but these are just a few of the things that have helped me. (1) Remembering, its Christ's BIRTHDAY we're celebrating. I can give others a birthday gift on their birthday! But since its Christ birthday and not others birthday (unless your birthday is on same date), then I should give Christ a birthday present. So, except for a few select people, I will not stress myself out by trying to get everyone a present. (2) My Grandmother always taught me that when someone 'makes you a present' it is from the HEART, therefore being more special then a 'store bought one'. Therefore, I try to make some gifts for my loved ones. Whether it be a craft item of flowers, baking cookies, making special vinegar, etc--it is from MY HEART. (3) Get family involved in a giving tradition. Instead of gifts for ourselves, I created small bags of items to take the Veterans in the VA hospital/VA nursing homes. I created over 50 of these. On Christmas day we take these gifts to the veterans. Not only that, but spend the whole day visiting and talking with them all. It really brightens up the vet's day. Some of the older vets don't have anyone to visit them. (4) Alot of people 'pull a name' to buy a gift for. I have found this to be a great idea. (5) The Dollar Stores have nice toys and gifts. I know you may be thinking 'how cheap'. However, if that is all the 'budget' will allow then that is what need to be bought. (6) I will not ever (again) 'charge' a Christmas present on a credit card, unless I am going to pay it immediately. It's DEPRESSING to still be paying for Christmas gifts 6 months or a year after Christmas has passed. (7) Write a poem or a short story for a loved one. Put it in a frame (you can get frames for a dollar at the dollar store). Wrap it up and give it to the loved one. This will touch their heart and mean so much to the other person. They can hang it on their wall, mantle, etc and have it for years to come. (8) For those people in your life who have always told you its the 'THOUGHT THAT COUNTS', why not give them the thought! Now, this would be good for people you like and especially those you don't like. Don't tell your 'mother-in-law' I said that. Go to a magazine, paper, internet. Cut out a picture of a Rolls Royce, Bently, a beautiful mansion, or whatever you'd like. Attach it to a beautiful, handwritten note from you. The note should state something to the effect of "This is what I would have given you for Christmas if I could've afford it. However, since I cannot afford it, I am sending you a "picture along with the thought". Afterall, its the thought that counts". And wish them Merry Christmas or whatever salutations you wish. (9) Do a Christmas dinner rather than gifts. Of course, have others to bring a plate of food, goodies, etc. Why should you do all the work, right? (10) Encourage children to bake cookies for other children in need. Take these to the homeless shelters that have kids in your area. Please supervise kids when cooking, but then you already know that! (11) A child could also paint their relatives a picture (or use crayons, etc). Their artwork can be put in a frame and given to parents, aunts, uncles, this is great for grandma and grandpa. I cannot tell you how much I treasure the artwork my kids gave to me when they were young. When they get older you are lucky to get artwork from them. Usually, we do not get ANY. So these treasures are very special and would make a great Christmas presents. Oh well, I am getting tired right now. If I think of anything else I will let you know. Please feel free to share any ideas or suggestions to make the holiday season less stressful and CHEAPER. Take care, ekikaseven

Thank you

Hi Dan, You guys would still qualify for the VA mortgage loans. Also, some credit unions have special programs for veterans. It is not the VA backed loans, but special programs to help vets. Have you discussed with a service officer (like at the DAV or VFW, etc) to see if any of the illnesses you or your brother have are service connected? If there is a correlation (now this may take a while) but you may be able to get the VA benefits (or an increase) as well. I wish you the best, Soldier girl

Hey Daniel, If you guys are total and permanent by the VA, it sounds like your disability should be 100%. The 100% rate of disablility for the VA disabled should be: $2500+. or $2600+. a month. You both are entitled to VA mortgage loans. Ask the lender to assist you in sending off for your 'certificate of entitlement' or you can contact call the VA at: 1-800-827-1000. Usually with the VA loan, one pays $500 dollars down. However, due to your brother's severe issues it's possible that he does not have to pay anything down. Check with your local service organizations for assistance, like the DAV and VFW. You do not have to be a member to receive assistance. The DAV has services officers that can point you in the right direction. I wish you the very best, From a soldier

Hi Arletha, I am so sorry that you lost your home. And living in a tent, that has got to be rough. It is good that the power company was able to connect power in your tent. Have you tried the American Red Cross for assistance with your power bill? This is such a sad situation, maybe the will help. I wish you the best and will be praying for you, ekikaseven _____________________ Lord, Pease provide for the needs of this family. You know what all of the needs are. Please make provisions. Amen.

N, (1) Have your husband to check with the DAV in his city. They have vans that go to the VA hospital. Check to see if they have one going on the day of his appointment and see if he can ride. (2) $5,000.for a 'downpayment on a car'. That amount could pay for a decent car and one would not have a car payment. Good luck, ekikaseven

Hey Dany, Could you make some of us here Aidpage rich first? Will you send us a dollar? Really appreciate it.

I'd just like to thank you for the prayer. Prayer is power and whatever is Gods will is what we will accept and learn to deal with.

Hi 'SoldierX', The maxium age limit to enlist in the ARMY is 42 years of age. Your goal to join the ARMY is great. I think everyone should 'serve their country' in the military in some capacity. At least all who are physically and mentally able. Men, women and their children should serve. As you can see, I do not discriminate here. Don't worry, I don't just 'talk the talk' but I 'walk the walk'. My husband served, U.S. Marine Corp I, myself, am a soldier; U. S. Army Our 2 sons serve their country, U.S. Marine Corp. I certainly do wish you the very best on your endeavors, From a Soldier lady, ekikaseven

Thank you,naannny1.

Found this to be interesting and wanted to share _____________________ __ The Miracle of Prayer By Terry Lynch Mom I Love You! Stop Smoking! Dear Friends, Three years ago my dear mother, La Faye S. Lynch, the daughter of Columbus LaFayette Sumner, a Methodist minister, and faithful wife of Lt. Col. Leonard P. Lynch, had a stroke. I was with her at the time and when she became unconscious I prayed to God to spare her life. I was certain she was going to die and after calling 911 waited anxiously for the para-medics while continuing to pray. I asked God to please spare her life and as I felt her pulse and breath I suddenly felt her coming back to life. Then miraculously she opened her eyes as the door bell rang singling that the para-medics had arrived. God had answered my prayers and my mother opened her eyes and spoke. She did not want to go to the hospital, but wanted to stay at home. However, I insisted that the para-medics take her to the hospital. I followed the quickly, signing all the papers at the emergency room for her treatment. I authorized tube feeding and blood transfusion which I'm told saved her life. But I know it was really God's intervention which saved her life when He answer may prayers as I waited in such desperation for the para-medics to arrive. My mother's ill health and poor condition were brought about as a direct result of 50 odd years of smoking cigarettes and drinking alcohol. This caused her to lose her teeth by the age of 46 and led to a host of health problems and illnesses. After a three week stay in the hospital, I followed the doctor's recommendation that she be placed in a nursing home where she was admitted as a temporary patient to complete her recovery. Then something very ironic happened; people started accusing me and blaming me for my mother's condition! The court, in its infinite wisdom, went against my mother's expressed and written wishes and directives and appointed non-relative lawyers as guardian/conservator. This resulted in loss of power and control over all family income, assets and eventually my home! It was my prayers which God answered and my actions which saved my mother's life. If anyone is to blame for her poor health and deplorable condition it is the big tobacco companies! But not one red cent has been received from them in compensation. All I have is the love and belief in God which my mother gave to me when at an early age she told me, "God is Love!" I wanted to share this testament with everyone that they know God does answer prayers. There are times in life when no one can help, when you are alone and only God is with you. At these critical moments it is important to ask God for help. He has a plan for everyone and although we may not realize what it is, each day miracles happen and God answers our prayers. Perhaps His plan in bringing my mother back to life to enjoy a few more years was to show us all that life is in His hands, that we must treat our bodies with reverence, not pollute them with tobacco products, alcohol or drugs; that then we each will suffer less in our golden years and our own children will not be falsely blamed for our poor health. Please feel free to share this with other family, friends, church members and readers. I have also established a web site at www.byteland.org/cancer/ to help educate and inform people and encourage them to stop smoking. Not only did smoking cause my mother's ill health and suffering, it was directly responsible for my father's death of congestive heart failure, having robbed him of 30 years of his life! This is why my mother who loved him so dearly did not enjoy his company during the later part of her life! God has given us each life and His love to share with others. It is important that we remember this and do not blame others for our own mistakes, problems or foolishness. Certainly everyone, especially those who are involved with elderly care, should remember this, that they not blame any of God's children for conditions of their parents or grandparents who are responsible for how they have chosen to live their lives and how this contributes to their own condition as they grow older. This is also why every state should have laws which permit each person to assign their own guardian/conservator, as when judges are given this power it too often results in corruption and their playing God with people's lives. I have told my mother's story and posted it on the Internet at www.byteland.org/era/ hoping that others may gain insight to the many problems associated with growing old. But of greatest importance is keeping one's faith and remembering that God is holding us each in His arms, that when there seems no hope, then is the time to pray for His help, as your prayers will be answered in so many ways that none can fathom. Sincerely, Terry Lynch Sept. 2, 2006 PS This story will be posted on the Internet at www.byteland.org/miracleofpray er/ Please feel free to share this link with everyone! Thank you! Help Stop Smoking! I'm working to try to stop smoking and tobacco usage. If you would like to help please buy my products and/or make a donation. All proceeds will be used to promote the health, education and welfare of people and to discourage usage of tobacco products. To make a donation of any amount just click on the secure link below: Donations of any amount up to $10,000.00 may be accepted. If you have never used PayPal before, just click on the above link, open an account and then you can make a donation. Dad I Love You! Stop Smoking! I have also created a Lemonade for Life campaign which has additional information on how everyone can help raise funds and awareness to help fight cancer, heart disease and other illness. Also at the Project K9 site there is information which may be helpful if you have a dog that has lymphoma. It can often be depressing and frustrating when you know a loved one who has cancer, be it a person or a most love canine companion. Often all we can do is share our heart, our love and prayers. Having seen my share of heart break I've also created a Gift of Love site. This site has Christmas greetings, carols and other tolk